Friends. From the very depths of my heart, I yearn for friends. Real friends.
I’m not talking about my husband or my mom, who are my best friends; I’m talking about the raw, sharing everything, complaining about my husband, being there when their child is born, friend.
It seems like everywhere I turn, every post I see, it’s someone raving about their bestie. All of the fun they have, how they were there for one another when the other was going through a rough time, someone to share their excitement when something awesome happens, sharing in their joy when they welcome a new baby into the world, etc. I long for this type of friendship.
Truth is, I’m jealous. I’m jealous of all those textbook friendships, the ones you read about in books and even the ones I see in my day-to-day life.
Motherhood can feel so lonely, it can actually BE lonely. Don’t get me wrong, my son is the single greatest thing to ever happen to me and I wouldn’t trade a second of the past four years, but it sure would be nice to have a friend to call “my person.” Truth is, I’m jealous. I’m jealous of all those textbook friendships, the ones you read about in books and even the ones I see in my day-to-day life. Someone who calls or texts just to see how I’m doing, someone who genuinely cares about what’s going on in my life, someone who knows all my baggage & loves me anyway, someone who loves my son {almost} as much as I do; you know, because no one can love a child like their own mother.
I don’t want to be the friend that they talk to when it’s convenient for them or when they need something, or the friend that they put on the back burner while another friend of theirs becomes more important for a while. I want to be the friend they rely on to be there for them, the friend who is there for all of their major life events & everything in between, the friend they can’t live without.
I want a true friend. One that no matter what, knows and understands what is important to me and would stick by me through those significant moments in my life. A true friend that also knows when to give space, but still be around at the same time. And a true friend that knows how to be there even when I don’t think I need them there.
I want a friend like that because that’s the type of friend I am.
If you have someone in your life like this, and I sure hope you do, comment below & tell us about them.
