What Your Spouse Really Wants as a Gift – Sex

Sex. Yes, I’m serious. Let’s get real here. Father’s Day is coming and although I’m sure they’d love that grill set you have your eyes on, they’d probably {I’m 99% sure} just love some extra TLC. This might seem odd since we usually want to be left alone on Mother’s Day but men have their eyes on what they really want, and that is you. So, let’s talk about what your spouse really wants for a gift – sex – and how you can give them exactly what they want for any special occasion. Here are a few reasons, plus research to back them up, that might make you rethink your fancy gift ideas.

1. First of all, most partners like it when they don’t have to be the one to initiate sexy time. They want you to show confidence and ask for it. In a survey with Thriving Marriages, 61% of men ranked a wife’s initiation as a top sexual need. A TOP sexual need! So, a great gift idea is to make a move during a time your spouse is least expecting it. It’ll be a surprise they’ve been hoping for.
2. Though your spouse cares less about what you look like when you’re on top of them, a sexy, yet simple, change of attire is a nice addition to any cozy evening {or morning} in bed. If you haven’t walked the undergarments and pajama section at Target or TJMaxx you’re missing out on some adorably sexy outfits. If you want to keep things simple, you can always pull out that thong stuffed at the bottom of the drawer. Think about the items your spouse has commented on in the past and go for it.
3. Oral sex. It’s one thing that’s typically not in the forefront of a women’s brain {well at least performing it} but usually is for men. Why? Well, according to my research it has to do with relaxation and a good ole confidence boost. Research doesn’t need to tell us that when a man pleases a woman orally they naturally feel pretty darn good about themselves. On the other end of the stick {no pun intended} a nationwide survey based in the U.S. tells us that men described oral sex as “mellow, stress-relieving, and very relaxing.” Plus there are relaxation benefits for women performing oral sex too. Semen contains melatonin and no matter how it enters your body, there’s a good chance you’ll enjoy a good night’s sleep because of it.

If you’re reading this and are thinking you need to start at the beginning and just reignite the passion between the sheets, you can also read my tips on how to Reignite Your Sex Drive.

So, don’t buy something your spouse is just going to “Marie Kondo” in a few months and gift them what will really bring them joy – sex.