Last week I had a huge meltdown. Like cry in the shower, ‘I hate myself,’ feel like a failure kind of meltdown. We all get those once in a while right? After all, no one’s life is as perfect as social media makes it seem.
I’ll be the first to say my life definitely isn’t.
Social media is my outlet for looking at my blessings in life and sharing updates with family and friends. Recently I’ve limited my sharing and haven’t been in as many photos.
An old high school friend noticed my social media posts, and reached out to me. Instead of the normal “How are you” type of conversation, it was one asking why I had let myself go. Especially in the last few months.
Her words hurt. They took me back. And I got lost and mixed up in my own head, hence the meltdown. Wondering if someone I haven’t spoken to in a decade can make this kind of comment then what are those around me thinking?
The next few days were kind of rough as I second-guessed everything until a sweet friend gave me a hug and said thank you. She said that my kiddos’ smiles brighten her day. She said that our adventures as a family give her hope to try some of her own. She asked how I was doing and said she noticed I looked tired and didn’t know how I could keep up with sports schedules, church activities, family events, and home life. She commented how my eye was looking better from a recent infection and how cute our family looked in coordinating outfits.
My friend knew what was going on and validated that she understood. My friend offered to help if I needed it. My friend truly cared and that’s what really mattered.
Put stock in the opinions and comments of those you are close to. They know the real story and care deep down. Don’t let someone’s comments tear you down, they may not realize the full story of your life, they may have had good intentions, but they might be upset or miserable themselves. You might still have a meltdown every now and again, and that’s okay. But feel all the feels, and move forward.
Share with me, How do you lift those up in your life when they are down?