Go! Go! Go! That’s my life majority of the time. I was starting to forget to take a moment for myself for months at a time. Sure I would get my hair done every two weeks, but it was always between the hustle of getting the kids to the next stop, grabbing food on the way home, and doing mommy duties once everyone was fed. Being a mom of 4 with a full-time job can be draining. There was a time I was working a full-time job and a part-time job for a year. I don’t know how I did it.
The downfall of supermom. We all want to be supermom and the chase to be her is exhausting. I needed balance badly. Everything became an item checked off the list. I started to feel like I was on autopilot. Starting my own business didn’t help. I was over it finally! I would walk past the kitchen and not do the dishes, let the laundry go, and was mentally checked out. I went from one end of the spectrum to the next. I know you are thinking, how did I get out of this funk?
I had to say to myself, I MATTER! I have always been everything to everyone else and stopped being important to myself. I am my own responsibility.
So I made some changes! I realized I don’t have to measure up to how the next mom does things and that’s okay. If she has it all together, good for her. I’ll even take tips, but I have to find my normal and my limits. If all the housework isn’t done by Saturday night, it’s not the end of the world. I was missing moments with the kids. Like they really cared if the house was clean, they cause most of the mess. They want quality time and before we know it, they’ll be out of the house anyway.
I’m budgeting time for my family and myself. I decided to get a massage every couple of months, read books again, take myself out to lunch, and enjoy a show I like. I’m getting into mindfulness and yoga. Self-care doesn’t have to look like what you read in a magazine, it can look like what’s important to you and the new adventures you want to explore.
I spent my New Year’s Eve doing a vision board for myself. I decided to make it a family function with the kids. Hey, they have goals too. 
I want to teach them self-care and how to take time to love themselves.
Budget your time for YOU! You’ll be happier and your family will too because you’ll be able to give them the best version of you.
