As we plan to start the new school year, I’m reflecting upon all that happened last year. And it was quite the eventful one, to say the least. Last school year I had a first grader and a second grader. My second grader was diagnosed with High-Functioning Autism.
As a mother of a young son who was diagnosed with High-Functioning Autism, I have learned that many people do not know or understand the daily struggles of mothers with Autistic children. I experienced trying to manage teachers and resource providers who care for my son. I learned that I needed to be more than just present. I needed to be seen physically by the teachers as a resource for navigating my son’s educational experience. This was a process.
I formed a relentless approach to seeking what would help my son be able to manage his behavior and education. It was extremely hard. I surely had moments when I wanted to give up. But then I reminded myself, “I can do this!”. I reached out to my school, I called meetings, and sought out resources in the Genesee County area that would be helpful. I do not look for sympathy. What mothers really need is empowerment! Empowerment to continue on the path toward helping our children get the resources and education that they need to live a great life.
So here is my letter to you, moms, because you rock! ::
Dear Mommies,
As we plan to head into another school year, let’s reflect upon the last one: you made it! Kudos to the long days and nights that undertake to provide the extra care for our children. To every doctor appointment, every appointment for additional resources, every meeting with teachers, resource providers, and administrators. We put in work making sure that everyone understands the expectations for the needs of our children.
We are their advocates! Without us, the heartbeat of managing the care for our babies may not be felt or may go unheard or be misunderstood. So I stand and applaud you for not giving up. For crying in the bathroom with the door closed, and looking in the mirror to remind yourself that God gave you this baby, and you’ll move any mountain to make sure that they are good!
This is the part of motherhood that sometimes goes unnoticed. But I see you! And I appreciate knowing there is another woman out there who is willing to stand up and speak out about the care of our Autistic children. Their needs are many, and so eclectic. But with our voices, we are able to make noise and raise awareness. Our voices let the world know that we will fight for our babies. Whatever resources that are available, we will hunt them down to make sure our kids get what will shape their beautiful minds for their incredible future! You can do this!! You are not alone.
Until next time,
Shanise Ollie
