I want my daughter to grow up knowing that she is intelligent, strong, powerful, and confident. I want my daughter to know that her outside beauty is not the most important piece of her but is only a small part of what makes her an amazing woman. I want my daughter to feel that she is empowered and to not follow the crowd. I want my daughter to have her own opinions and to stand up for what she believes in.
She will know that she is capable of doing anything that she dreams of doing. She will know that when she wants to take her own path, even though it may be difficult, that it will be the right choice.
My daughter will know all of these things because it is my job, as her mother, to teach her and guide her through, in the best way that I know how. As a Mom, our jobs are already important, but I feel like having a daughter, adds a greater and different kind of responsibility. I am now, not just a Mom but I am her Mom. I am her role model. I am her best friend. I am the person that she is going to come to with questions and for help. With that, I feel that I have to be my best self, not just for my family but, specifically, for her.
I have promised myself that to be my best self, I need to make some changes in my life. I need to figure out what makes me the happiest and healthiest, so that I can be the happiest and healthiest for my family. It is so easy for us, as Moms, to put ourselves on the back burner and continue to tell ourselves that we will change or do better tomorrow. Well, tomorrow turns into next week, then next month, then next year. It’s a vicious cycle and it’s something that we need to take control of right now.
We all go through different times in our lives where we lack some confidence and self esteem or focus too much on the outside rather than how we feel and who we are on the inside. I have to tell myself every.single.day. that I have a pair of big baby blues that are watching my every move. She’s learning and mimicking everything that I do and I will be her greatest influence. It’s a giant responsibility but is one that I signed up for and would never, ever, give up. I want her to see me as a strong, intelligent, independent, confident, and happy woman and I will do everything I can to show her that. I live for my children and they motivate me everyday to continue to learn and become a better person.
We are all such amazing women and mothers, so I am encouraging you all to figure out what it is that makes you feel your best. It is so different for each of us, so take some time to think about what you can do, for you, to be your best self. If you’re lucky enough to have it all figured out, kudos to you! I hope to get there soon but I know that I need to trust the process and stay positive.
What do you do as a mom, to help you make you feel your best?
Kourt you are such a strong lady and you my friend have hit the nail on the head-a daily struggle for a lot of us-I know at least myself that I am trying to figure out who I am again-as a mom I simply just figured that was enough but WRONG! I need to figure out myself again to be better for Bree and reading your blog just made me remember that <3 thank you!
You’re an amazing mom, Sara and I am so happy to have you as my friend in this crazy life 🙂 xoxo